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RESPECTFUL RELATING ARTICLES
BY JOSEPH P. FAUST
Respectful Relating articles are dedicated to those who helped me learn life-changing lessons
and to you who seeks to love and be loved, well.
If you desire more respectful relating these articles will be helpful.
When I saw you I fell in
love, and you smiled
because you knew.
– William Shakespeare
Article Index
Articles by Joseph Faust
♥ ATTRACTION & RESPECTFUL RELATING
1. Attraction. Partnership. Legendary Love.
2. Guys’, LISTENING is IMPORTANT…
3. Some insights into four kinds of Respectful Relating.
♥ DATING & COMMUNICATION
4. I LOVE YOU, what does that mean?
5. What is RELATIONAL REALITY? And, why is it important?
6. WHO Really Determines the Meaning…
7. Beauty Needs A Witness…Understanding HER & HIM
7A. Texts of Appreciation
♥ COMMITMENT
8. Why do Agreements Work Better than Expectations?”
9. Could DO vs. WILL DO (aka. The Power of Beliefs, in brief.)
10. What Matters Most…To You?
♥ PREVENTING BREAKUPS
11. Communication Excellence? I messed up…
12. Why understanding AGREEMENTS could save your relationship.
13. When is an EXPECTATION a boundary infringement?
14. Your truth. My truth. Our truth, OUR REALITY.
15. The costs and benefits of…Rules, Expectations and Agreements
16. How powerful is LOVE and COMPASSION?
17. Beyond Forgiveness
♥ JUST FOR FUN
18. Inspirational rant on being HAPPY and FREE
19. Some Quick Thoughts
20. How to Manifest DESIRED EXPERIENCES
21. “IS IT ALL BULLSHIT? OR IS LIFE A GAME…OR WHAT?
Article 1
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“Attraction. Partnership. Legendary Love.”
First, there is an attraction to that which is desired…
HE,
maybe on-purpose pursuing freedom for himself and others, preparing to gift.
SHE,
loving
and hoping for more love.
Seeking an intimate connection,
…that continues to grow and deepen.
What happens when…
the attraction grows into a partnership,
and then grows into gifting each other in unspeakable ways?
Unspeakable, except in poetry,
Rumi, said it well…“Out beyond right-doing and wrong-doing, there is a field. I’ll meet you there.”
What happens when freedom-consciousness and love-aliveness are well-matched?
JOY, and sometimes…the birth of the ultimate love life partnership, a dream team.
LEGENDARY LOVE
“Love is an experience everyone wants…
which you can experience, the moment you give it.”
– Joseph Faust, Founder Love Life School
I would love to hear your comments or questions. Contact Joseph
Article 2
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“Guys’, LISTENING is IMPORTANT”
Here’s an EXTREME example of WHY…
HER: “You don’t understand me. You don’t get me.”
HIM: “Yes, I do. You make sense to me.”
HER: “Let me clarify. I don’t feel understood by you.”
HIM: “I heard what you said, so you should feel understood.”
HER: “Ok, let’s try this again.”
HIM: “OK. Good morning, I’d like to see you today.”
HER: “I’m unavailable today.”
HIM: “OK, then call me this afternoon.”
HER: “Hmmm. Wow, what to do? Perhaps we should get some assistance.”
I challenge you to email Joseph and tell him what you think she should do.
Article 3
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“Some insights into FOUR kinds of Respectful Relating”
Here are four kinds of RESPECTFUL RELATING
Respecting yourself as an individual
Respecting the uniqueness of your time-space reality, your values, needs, desires, and dreams.Respecting another person regarding how they want to be related to.
Honoring their boundaries, values, and preferences – for relating to you.Respecting yourself regarding how you relate to another person
Honoring your boundaries, values, and preferences – related to another person.Respecting the space and the environment, of others, and your own and the environment future generations will inherit – this beautiful planet.
Whether you recognize it or not, everyone has their vote related to how they experience you.
Business is a team sport. And, a family is a team experience.
Respecting yourself and others is a smart choice.
The alternative to self-respect is to dishonor yourself and having contempt for yourself and others. 🙁
Have due regard for the feelings, wishes, rights, and traditions of others. Respect for human rights.
Kindness counts! Courtesy too. “My religion is kindness.” – Dalai Lama
Since human beings have evolved in the last 2,000 years…we might update the golden rule to the platinum rule:
“Do unto others as they would choose to have done unto them.”If you’re like a cat, you’re different than a dog, you don’t want to play throw the ball and retrieve it.
As a cat, you would prefer – I respect you by respecting your space.And, if you are in the mood to in relate or be petted, you might make it clear by coming near, and/or arching your back or purring.
Most dogs don’t understand this, but a few do.
I feel it can be useful to recognize:
- Everyone has something special and knows things you don’t. Everyone is capable of doing something special.
- Everyone can provide certain kinds of value, even if it’s not immediately clear how.
- Everyone comes from a different place, and they bring experience and wisdom.
- Men and Women are equally valuable – and clearly, we have differences. Let’s respect and celebrate our differences.
- Trust that each person has redeeming qualities that, when revealed, would inspire and delight you.
I feel it can be useful to practice:
- Being tactful, courteous, and showing some charm.
- Being thoughtful and generous demonstrating appreciation, honor, and love.
- Be curious. Noticing what matters to another, matters!
- Be considerate, empathizing, honoring, and be reliable…each contributes to building trust.
- Acknowledging how much you value another.
To relate respectfully is powerful.
Who doesn’t want to feel honored, respected, and feel worthy of celebration?
Respect for boundaries, values, beliefs, availability, relevance, interest, and listening deeply
to both verbal and nonverbal communication, are all ways we can learn to practice RESPECTFUL RELATING.
Comments or questions. Contact Joseph
Article 4
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“I LOVE YOU, what does that mean?”
Well, it seems to me…
Love is
different than attraction,
desire, need or want.
What if LOVE IS APPRECIATING?
As in, I APPRECIATE YOU.
Love can be, FULLY BEING WITH.
And, “Love is the space in which someone is allowed to change.” – Henry Palmer
LOVING-ACTION can be contributing, gifting, serving, and sharing.
I LOVE YOU, what does that mean?
Could it mean…
I feel love, for you
I love you, right now
I feel I will always love you
I believe I will always love you
I appreciate you
I deeply value you
I am experiencing God shine through you
I’m feeling compelled to be loving to you
I trust you
I am open to you
I cherish you
Being here with you, I’m feeling bliss as I appreciate you LOVING YOU, and you LOVING ME.
With Love.
Joseph P. Faust
Comments or questions. Contact Joseph
Article 5
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“What is RELATIONAL REALITY? And, why is it important!”
How many times, in the past, have you experienced people fighting about whose REALITY is right?
Here’s a way that my coach shared with me to CREATE REALITY with another person, that works great for people who seek to be respectful of both SELF & OTHER.
First, define PERSONAL PERSPECTIVES on the topic.
For example, related to topic #1.
You identify three key factors – A, B, and C.
And the other person identifies, three key factors – A, B, and F.
Given this, you’ve identified two similar, yet different PERSONAL PERSPECTIVES.
Since you’ve identified that, “A, B” are key factors…you can now say your SHARED REALITY on topic #1, is “A, B”.
Clearly identifying SHARED REALITY or OUR REALITY, is an important place to begin…when interested in MUTUAL FULFILLMENT and SUSTAINABLE RESULTS.
Once you’ve identified some SHARED REALITY it’s easier to create a SHARED INTENTION and to identify COOPERATIVE COMPONENTS for whatever WE desire to co-create.
A SHARED INTENTION is that which we both desire to experience. And includes the ABSENCE OF that which we both desire the ABSENCE OF.
A COOPERATIVE COMPONENT is “anything that is supportive of creating the desired experience”.
For example, if you both desire a massage, and you both imagine you would enjoy massaging to each other. Then you could each be a COOPERATIVE COMPONENT towards the other experiencing a massage.
Additional COOPERATIVE COMPONENTS could be coconut oil, music, time, space, and an authentic discussion regarding personal boundaries, desires, and current physical and emotional conditions.
Key take-a-ways:
- The importance of and how to create: SHARED REALITY, SHARED INTENTION, COOPERATIVE COMPONENTS.
Bonus items:
- The more COOPERATIVE COMPONENTS you have toward something, the easier it is to create it.
- SHARED REALITY and SHARED INTENTIONS are exceptionally powerful COOPERATIVE COMPONENTS.
Please enjoy and share these insights…to increase the love, freedom, and joy in the world.
Comments or questions. Contact Joseph
Article 6
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“Who Really Determines the Meaning of Your Communication?”
Two sets of meanings are created when you communicate with someone.
THE INTENT: Your Positive Intention. What you want the listener to receive and perceive.
THE IMPACT: What they actually receive and perceive.
You are in charge of what you send.
They are in charge of how they receive it.
However, how you send your communication can influence how they receive it.
The most influential communicators communicate with an awareness of the listener’s personal context.
A person’s personal context is their CURRENT REALITY, which is the combination of how they are FEELING and BELIEVING in themselves, the world, their capabilities, and other environmental factors such as you.
It’s nothing personal about you or me, but it is personal about how the listener is listening to and perceiving their world.
For instance, a child is likely to hear a large adult standing above them and speaking with a loud voice different than — another adult would hear another adult of the same size and gender standing six feet away.
The care, skill, and flexibility of the person sending a communication shapes what gets SENT. The listener’s context filter’s what gets RECEIVED.
In China, speaking Chinese helps a lot.
In California, speaking English or Spanish helps a lot.
Often in a business setting, LOGICAL COMMUNICATION is useful.
Often in a romantic situation, HEART-FELT COMMUNICATION and RELATIONAL COMMUNICATION is useful.
Often in a family, friendly, seductive, or business situation, relational communication is useful.
The person with more flexibility in the way they communicate relationally is in the best position to influence.
In addition, the person with the most consciousness is the one who is more responsible for the quality of the relationship.
If you agree with these statements, then it follows that blaming another person is a way of saying someone else is more conscious than you, because they are “more responsible” for the situation. Which simply is not true because our personal perceptions are personal.
With self-awareness and other-awareness comes great responsibility.
With that responsibility comes great power and the need to be responsible for it.
How’s that for a fresh perspective?
I would enjoy hearing your feedback on how the above works for you!
Article 7
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“Beauty Needs A Witness…Understanding HER & HIM”
She is beautiful. He notices.
BEAUTY, MEET CONSCIOUSNESS.
Beauty needs a witness.
Life is to be celebrated.
Understand her? Understand him?
People have a desire to be understood.
Is it possible…to fully understand, her or him?
People are complex. There is so much to us. We are miracles.
UNDERSTANDING A PERSON can be different than,
UNDERSTANDING WHAT A PERSON IS EXPERIENCING.
We all have…
desires, needs, values, beliefs, fears, hopes, and dreams.
And, we have assumptions, expectations, filters, agreements, perspectives, and experience.
So, fully understanding a person is a complex process.
And, empathy is difficult to achieve, and compassion is difficult to communicate – through text or email.
In-person, communication is often needed for complex relational dynamics, especially after misunderstandings have occurred, and feelings hurt.
In person, understanding how someone is feeling, can be simpler…
it’s a matter of EMPATHY for another’s perspective,
and being fully-open to sharing in AND INTO
the feeling-space, that is present.
And, sharing the point-of-view,
perspective, viewpoint, that another is PRESENT TO.
So, understanding is more than conceptual,
it’s also a sharing of an energy-feeling experience.
Getting someone’s CONTEXT (their current feeling thought perspective on reality) is key to understanding.
Part of UNDERSTANDING SOMEONE’S CONTEXT is having the INTENTION
and ability TO BE WITH underlying factors…
such as the other person’s BELIEFS, VALUES, INTERPRETATIONS, FEELINGS, and ASSUMPTIONS.
When we get what someone’s DESIRES & GOALS are,
their level of empowerment – to shape their life,
and their PERCEIVED OPTIONS (DETERMINED BY THEIR BELIEFS), we begin to understand what they hope for.
Is there a desire to repair, repeat, transform or grow?
“Relationships grow…when we INVEST in ourselves, and others.”
– Joseph P. Faust, Founder LoveLife University
Comments or questions. Contact Joseph
Article 7A
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“Appreciation Texts”
Appreciation text examples (from RespectfulRelating.com)
His name!
When you said, (inset “something he said”)
I felt…
(choose one:
“seen, heard, safe, loved, warm, cared for, juicy, met”).
One (chose one: “happy, delighted, wet, excited, pleased, grateful) woman.
Alternative option
substitute “when you said…”
with
“When you (insert something that he did)”
So the above applied could be:
David!
When you said, I will call you tomorrow at 8 pm, I felt cared for.
One delighted woman.
Or
Mike!
When you picked me up at the time you said you would I felt safe. One delighted woman.
Article 8
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“Why do Agreements Work Better than Expectations?”
Plus, Tips for Making More Successful Agreements.
An agreement between two people is more effective because an expectation is something that only one person wants, needs, or hopes for.
EXPECTATIONS are a one way street between two people and thus create disappointment.
In contrast, an AGREEMENT is something that two or more people agree will or will not occur.
Well-created agreements identify and create alignment between two people.
Well-handled agreements create alignment, trust, and great results!
How we handle our agreements with others MASSIVELY impacts trust and our success.
Have you ever felt the pain that resulted from a broken agreement that you or the other person didn’t even want to acknowledge?
Often that’s the result of being overcommitted or making agreements that you or the other person never actually wanted to make.
Tip: Only make agreements that BOTH people WANT TO make!
Have you also noticed that someone trying to force or manipulate an agreement never works out well?
The best agreements are those that are FREELY CHOSEN by both people. And, with an awareness of WHAT IT WILL TAKE TO DELIVER ON THE AGREEMENT.
Also, DESIRE and CAPACITY are two different things and the best agreements are made when the participants have both the desire for the agreement to exist and the capacity to deliver on the agreement as agreed upon.
But breakdowns happen and sometimes unanticipated circumstances arise. And since “integrity is the essence of everything successful” (according to Buckminster Fuller), I ask: how can we adjust our agreements with integrity, when unanticipated circumstances occur?
When an agreement needs to be adjusted, I offer the following tips to honor yourself and those you make agreements with:
When you first sense that you may not achieve fulfilling an agreement as agreed, communicate!
And what would be wise to communicate? The truth: that you are now aware that you will not be able to make the agreement that you agreed to, and that you recognize that your shortcoming on this will impact the other person.
If as a result of your broken promise, you wish to know what the impact is, ask. If consequences, own up to it and honor it.
♥ What do you think? Would this work for you?
Joseph P. Faust
Comments or questions. Contact Joseph
Article 9
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“Could DO vs. WILL DO aka. The Power of Beliefs, (in brief.)”
What can an individual do to make SUSTAINABLE progress while limiting beliefs are the way? Not much, when the beliefs are active.
Why, because beliefs control meaning, and therefore also feelings and behaviors!
Beliefs are ideas about what’s true and are often no longer ACTUALLY TRUE, and yet they control our perception until we update them.
Wearing a pair of sunglasses shapes the colors you see, as long as you are wearing them.
Beliefs also impact our feelings, because they shape what we feel is good/right/desired/needed, etc.
Updating your beliefs is an extremely powerful way to transform your life experience. A new experience OF LIFE is created…from new decisions.
A decision is at the core of any belief. Most people’s decisions are based not so much on a fact-based reality but on their perception of reality.
At one time most people believed the world was flat and this shaped their experience of reality and behavior. (Sailing was very unpopular.)
What can a person do once they have overcome (cleared) limiting beliefs on a topic? Great things, regarding that topic.
Desire + Conflicting Belief ⇒ Stress & Undesired Results.
Desire + Supportive Belief ⇒ Internal Alignment. Leading to Powerful Actions & Results.
After belief and desire alignment…suitable action strategies are important.
Desiring to fly, and believing one can fly, is insufficient unless one uses a hang glider or other vehicle (a suitable action strategy).
It’s HIGHLY recommended that limiting beliefs are cleared, before strategy development. Because beliefs control what PERSONAL strategies make sense and are actionable.
Frequently, suitable action strategies become clear as soon as beliefs are updated.
When your beliefs line up with factual-reality, it’s easier to create the reality you prefer. – Joseph Faust
- Example: Beliefs vs. Factual-reality. Most people have a lot more assets AND liabilities than they think they do.
- Accurately identifying assets AND liabilities makes it easier to create a financial-reality, you prefer. But, first, update your beliefs about yourself and money. 🙂
For more on beliefs, see Joseph’s two-page website www.BeliefCoach.com or for more on strategies Contact Joseph
Article 10
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“WHAT MATTERS MOST…TO YOU?”
What would you most like to experience?
How can you most-easily overcome any obstacle?
“The significant problems that humans face cannot be solved at the same level thinking that created them.” – Albert Einstein
To solve a significant problem we need to realize THE SOLUTION IS UPSTREAM:
- Upstream to “an environmental condition, created by a human”…is about human behavior.
- Upstream to a behavior…is a strategy.
- Upstream to a strategy…is a value or belief.
- Upstream to a value or belief…is a personal identity.
- Upstream to personal identity…is a relationship with Spirit.
Desperate people do desperate things.
Fortunately, the less-desperate a person feels, the less-desperate they act.
Higher-quality choices come from higher levels of awareness.
Addressing a ROOT CAUSE can help us see how we can contribute to positive change:
Upgrading how we relate to Spirit, to ourselves, and to each other, can provide UPSTREAM SOLUTIONS.
Looking upstream we can find…
The PLATINUM RULE:
“Do unto others as they would have done unto themselves”, respects people’s different preferences.
Different people desire to be able to choose different food, clothing, and transportation etc.
To apply the PLATINUM RULE, to benefit yourself and others, REQUIRES AWARENESS gained by the practice of consciously looking, listening, and feeling.
The depth of EXPERIENTIAL CONNECTION with nature, Spirit, Self & Others, is intimately related to AWARENESS.
I see Personal AWARENESS as the combination of heart, mindset, and focus of attention.
UNCONSCIOUS PROGRAMMING combined with, CONSCIOUS AWARENESS shows up as BEHAVIOR.
People’s behaviors are shaped by:
1) Conditioning they’ve been conditioned to believe and do
2) Biological drives, especially survival and reproduction
3) Any self-initiated beliefs, strategies, and habits
The more a person creates their own beliefs, strategies, and habits, the greater the choice they have about their life experience (personally, interpersonally, environmentally, etc.).
When a person learns how to create and dis-create their own beliefs, they gain the power to create the experiences they prefer. And, to minimize the impact the media, advertising, and cult-like thinking has on them.
Throughout history, extraordinary people have always demonstrated the ability to influence their own minds and focus their own attention…on what they believe is most important!
- Article by Joseph Faust, Founder of The Love Coaching Club
- Joseph is interested in your thoughts and feelings about this article and what matters most to you!
- Are you curious to learn more about the power of life-changing beliefs? BeliefCoach.com
Article 11
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“Communication Excellence? I messed up…”
At the moment, I’m sad and my heart hurts.
I’ve prided myself on being an excellent listener and communicator, but recently I slipped from that.
Here’s what happened…
One of my teachers and someone I love emailed a message to their support team that including me.
Since I was busy and wasn’t available to participate in the event, I didn’t properly receive the communication and figured I’d address it later.
Unfortunately, the second time the communication was sent it was sent verbally to a group and I was tired and distracted. (I was busy processing an internal conversation with myself about a related personal story the teacher had shared earlier.)
As a result, I met with someone that was against the Guidelines sent by the teacher, and the non-alignment with her protocol was experienced as a breach, in trust.
This pained me because I deeply value trust and pride myself in being trustworthy. And, because I understand my teacher’s point-of-view and because she sent the communication twice.
My learning is this
communication has four parts:
1) sending
2) receiving
3) processing
4) confirmation that the receiver has received and processed accurately.
And, for me to be an excellent communicator, in the role of sender or receiver I am responsible that all four parts of the communication loop to have successfully occurred.
If I clearly write a letter and throw it over the fence into my neighbor’s yard and then expect he has read it, understands, and agrees with all I said, I’m likely to experience ineffective letter writing results.
So my new goal is to take 100% responsibility for the entire four-step communication loop, whether I’m the original sender or receiver of a message.
I’ve now put this communication out into the world, but will only know you have received, understood, and agree with it if you communicate with me such that I can verify for myself that we are now in agreement that the four steps have been achieved.
So I’d love to hear what if anything of what I’ve shared has landed in your world.
Still learning. With love.
I would love to hear your comments or questions. Contact Joseph
Article 12
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“Why Understanding AGREEMENTS could Save Your Marriage, Partnership, or Business.”
AGREEMENT – Synonyms
understanding, compatibility, congruity, harmony, union, alignment
AGREEMENTS – Definitions
- Harmony or accordance in opinion or feeling; a position or result of agreeing.
- A negotiated and typically legally binding arrangement between parties as to a course of action.
An agreement occurs as a result of a two-way communication.
An expectation is often a one-way communication.
Agreements are foundational to sustainable relationships.
Agreements are the basis of partnership.
Partnerships are about alignment with mutually chosen experiences and results.
Honoring and respecting agreements, allows beautiful things to happen.
Agreements are powerful. Agreements are commitments. Agreements are promises.
The greater the true alignment – with an agreement – the more longevity the agreement will have.
“I only want to form agreements – that both people truly want to, and choose to agree to. “
There is risk of undue influence – if there is pressure to agree to something.
Pressure (authority, peer pressure, loss of approval, etc.) reduces the odds of true alignment with an agreement.
- Alignment is a sustainable path…to joy and great results.
- Relational SUSTAINABILITY, PARTNERSHIP requires ALIGNMENT.
- Two-way communication (sharing + confirmation of agreement), is essential to IDENTIFY alignment.
When offering a potential agreement…the greater clarity the better.
Putting the offering potential agreement in writing, giving time for processing, engaging in dialogue, and clarification regarding the agreement…all support the understanding and accurate calibration of potential agreements.
Comments or questions. Contact Joseph
Article 13
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“When is an EXPECTATION a boundary infringement?”
An AGREEMENT (two or more people in alignment) is distinct from an EXPECTATION (one person’s perspective or desire).
Many people haven’t considered that EXPECTATIONS, especially prior to VERBAL DISCLOSURE, CONSENT, and AGREEMENT, may be perceived by the other person as a boundary infringement.
Because when a person (an employer, teacher, lover, friend, parent, etc.) creates an EXPECTATION regarding your behavior IT HAS AN IMPACT ON YOU, WITHOUT YOUR CONSENT, and sometimes even outside your awareness.
And, if you do what is EXPECTED, you reinforce the dynamic and are likely to find the number of expectations E-X-P-A-N-D-I-N-G.
Alternatively, if you actually agree to do action or non-action, then you’ve given your consent, and it’s no longer an expectation, but an agreement.
EXPECTATIONS create DISAPPOINTMENT, and sometimes resentment or sadness.
AGREEMENTS create the space for conscious relating, conscious accountability, and sustainable success.
For more insights on this topic read the post: AGREEMENTS vs. EXPECTATIONS.
Comments or questions. Contact Joseph
Article 14
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“Your truth. My truth. Our truth, OUR REALITY.”
The experience of being understood vs interpreted is so compelling you can charge admission. – Susan Scott
There is something within us that responds deeply to people who level with us. – Susan Scott
BEING UNDERSTOOD TAKES TWO-WAY COMMUNICATION. And, a dialogue with people who are interested in UNDERSTANDING AND BEING UNDERSTOOD. – Joseph Faust
I want to hear your truth, from you, in person or by phone, even if you think it’s unpalatable and the sooner the better. – Joseph Faust
Say NICE True Things To Me.
- YOUR TRUTH is your perspective EXPERIENCE (which may and hopefully sometimes includes my perspective).
- MY TRUTH is my perspective EXPERIENCE (which sometimes includes your perspective).
- Our truth, OUR SHARED REALITY, is what we agree on…or agree is SO.
- Save time and heartache…regularly examine the REALITY of your relationships.
- Reality conversations often do take time. AND, skipping reality conversations will ultimately take a lot longer.
Comments or questions. Contact Joseph
Article 15
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“The costs/benefits of… Rules, Expectations and Agreements”
I’m discovering something that feels important for love, freedom, and ongoing relational joy,
A rule, to be enforced, requires control systems. Control systems take time, energy, etc.. Clearly, not fun.
A declaration or expectation, (whether an internal thought or spoken/written words), by one person, may or may not be properly received (by other persons).
A declaration is a SENDING of information. (Which may or may not be properly received.)
Another option, for consideration…
An AGREEEMNT acknowledges alignment.
A clearly understood and agreed to AGREEMENT, naturally facilitates sustainable win-win relating.
Agreements clarify current alignment, facilitate respectful relating and ongoing accountability.
Comments or questions. Contact Joseph
Article 16
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“HOW POWERFUL IS LOVE & COMPASSION?”
No matter what the desired change is…LOVE and COMPASSION can help.
- In fact, in many situations, Love & Compassion is sufficient to create the desired change.
- If we add, self-love and compassion the internal battle and the critical voice relaxes.
Making peace within ourselves is a prerequisite for peace on the planet.
- We will always want to grow and evolve to the next level and if we accept and appreciate who we are now…our growth accelerates.
- Love the voice inside your head and soon enough the voice in your head will change.
- The more kindness you give to yourself, the more you will find your relating with others improves as well.
Article 17
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Beyond Forgiveness
How I found the Space to Love, Another; Again.
For a while, after the breakup, I was hung up on the need to forgive (and; to receive an apology).
I felt – the way the change happened as careless, and saw my ex.’s insensitivity as cruel.
I was hurt, but I was most definitely not a victim.
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I’m a creator.
I created; the meaning of my experiences by the meaning that, I associated with my experiences.
I gave the experiences we shared, both the desired and undesired, all the meaning that they had for me.
Now, I understand that I am the creator of my experience, love can be ever-presently experienced. In the presence of my beloved, or not.
And, now, I choose to thank the players; in my past, for the lessons.
One of the most important lessons being, alignment, and what alignment feels like, and what non-alignment feels like.
I prefer alignment.
Article 18
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A to Z
“INSPIRATIONAL RANT ON BEING HAPPY & FREE…”
APPRECIATE and YOU ENRICH and ELEVATE.
BE BRILLIANT. BE HEALTHY. BELIEVE IN BEAUTY. BLESS YOU. BE BOLD.
CELEBRATE LIFE. CLARITY IS FUN. COCONUTS.
COMMITMENT. CO-CREATE. CONTACT IMPROV.
CONTRIBUTE. CREATE YOUR WORK. CULTIVATE VITALITY.
DANCE. DANCE. DANCE.
DAILY RITUALS. DESIGN YOUR LIFE.
DISCOVER YOUR GIFTS and SHARE THEM WITH THE WORLD.
DOUBLE YOUR FREEDOM.
DREAM.
DIRECTION and TIMING OVER SPEED.
ELEVATE. ENJOY EXCITEMENT.
EXPAND WHAT’S SEEMS POSSIBLE
FEED YOUR WILD SIDE.
FIND YOUR BEAUTIFUL OBSESSION.
FIND WHAT YOU LOVE & BRING IT. FOCUS. FOLLOW YOUR HEART.
GOD
HOME-COOKED GOODNESS.
HOT BATHS. COLD SHOWERS.
IMPACT. IF YOU CARE ENOUGH DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT.
JOY.
KISSING
LAUGHTER. LEANING INTO LIFE. LEARNING.
LIVE BOLDLY.
LOVE YOURSELF, OTHERS, & THE PLANET.
LOVE LIFE SCHOOL
LIFE IS HERE TO BE LIVED.
MANIFEST YOUR HEARTS DESIRE
NATURE RULES.
OWN YOUR DREAMS. OWN YOUR SPACE. OWN YOUR BODY.
PASSION. PIVOT. PLAY. PROUD OF YOU.
READ MORE. REAL-LIFE CONNECTION. RISE UP AGAIN.
SCULPT YOUR BODY. SIMPLY LOVE. SMALL WINS ADD UP.
SHARE YOUR LOVE
SHARE YOUR TALENTS, GIFTS & BLESSINGS.
SUCCESS IS A TEAM SPORT.
TRANSFORMATION
UNIVERSE
UTILIZE POSITIVE MOMENTUM
VICTORY
WINNING
X-CITEMENT
YOU
ZEST
And of course… PRACTICE LOVE NOW
Joseph Faust, Founder LoveLife University
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Some Quick Thoughts
Education is the most powerful when it empowers everyone.
The price of conformity is too expensive. Be free. – Joseph Faust
Practice appreciation. It will feed your joy, other peoples too! – Joseph Faust
One way that I show you I love you, is by to helping you to fall in love with you. – Joseph Faust
Lasting happiness is cultivated by those who value it and know how to cultivate it. – Joseph Faust
Letting others have their opinion of you…while maintaining your own opinion of you, let’s you be you. – Joseph Faust
Life sends subtle messages. If you do not listen, the messages get louder. Your listening is appreciated. – Joseph Faust
The true value of a coaches coaching isn’t measured by what they know, but by how much you benefit by relating with them. – Joseph Faust
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“HOW TO: Manifest DESIRED EXPERIENCES”
The fastest and easiest way to manifest more desired experiences is
CREATE MORE ALIGNMENT.
HOW do you CREATE MORE ALIGNMENT?
Realize that, The G-A-P
between your current
“DESIRES and BELIEFS”
creates your current
level of ALIGNMENT.
ALIGNMENT level,
is experienced as
your current VIBE, which creates
CURRENT MANIFESTATION RATE.
More ALIGNEMNT creates HIGHER VIBE and faster desired manifestation.
The SATISFACTION that comes from ALIGNMENT…is so fulfilling.
Create ALIGNMENT and DESIRED manifestations…are on their way!
ALIGNMENT of
DESIRES & BELIEFS
creates CLARITY & SATISFACTION.
- Desire CLARITY?
- Desire ALIGNMENT?
- Desire RESULTS?
Article 21
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“IS IT ALL BULLSHIT? OR IS LIFE A GAME…OR WHAT?
This essay is dedicated to the woman who inspired it.
“IT’S ALL BULLSHIT…
Is a comment by someone who could benefit from some rest, self-compassion, and more appreciation.
“LIFE IS A GAME…
If by that you mean that there are rules. And, that if you understand the rules and you play well, then you can do well and enjoy the process. Then yes, life is a game.
The true rules are the laws of nature.
And for human relations, the true rules regarding relating well include:
Learning how to do both self-care and other care.
Which includes giving to oneself and giving to others and receiving their gifts as well.
The rules also include desires and beliefs and how they relate to each other:
When your desires and beliefs are in conflict you feel conflict.
When they are in agreement, you feel inspired.
Also, your identity is based on your beliefs about yourself.
Your strategies, behaviors, and results are based on your identity combined with your beliefs about others and the world.
To have a great experience in life nothing outside of you needs to change.
A great experience in life can be sourced from your alignment with yourself and the Source.
The easiest way to relate with others is to care for yourself and appreciate yourself and others.
When you need rest, rest.
When you have a desire, line up with it or let it go.
Give your attention to ideas that support you in experiencing what you wish to explore/experience.
Life is a gift, and this may be your only one.
I send you to love, and I’m glad and appreciate you — for you!
And for your gifts that contribute to this planet, to others, and to my life experience.
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FIND SYNERGIES IN RELATIONSHIPS & EMPOWER EACH OTHER
ARE YOU READY FOR A ROMANTIC RELATIONSHIP?
Healing is sometimes indicated first, before romance.
Creating a romantic relationship before your heart is ready could result in more disappointment.
Any QUICK tips? Yes.
Connecting with the partner of your dreams starts with personal alignment, when both your heart (desires) and mind (beliefs) agree on someone or something. The more alignment you have the better you feel and the more attractive you are to the partner of your dreams.
Next step…