♥ LISTENING IS IMPORTANT ♥

By Joseph P. Faust, Founder LoveLife University

Masculine and feminine communication is different; masculine communication is based primarily on logic and right-brain functions, whereas female communication is based on feelings and left-brain processing. Here’s an extreme example of a couple who is not able to “hear” each other:

HER: “You don’t understand me. You don’t get me.”

HIM: “Yes, I do. You make sense to me.”

HER: “Let me clarify. I don’t feel understood by you.”

HIM: “I heard what you said, so you should feel understood.”

HER: “Ok, let’s try this again.”

HIM: “OK. Good morning, I’d like to see you today.”

HER: “I’m unavailable today.”

HIM: “OK, then call me this afternoon.”

HER: “Hmmm. Wow, what to do? Perhaps we should get some assistance.”

Both men and women communicate from a masculine and feminine perspective and it’s important to identify where your partner is communicating from in order to support their current needs. For example, if your partner is currently speaking in a logical, right-brain way (i.e. plans, deadlines, functions) rather than speaking to him or her about your feelings it may serve you to speak to them “at their level.”

If you don’t, and you try to move to a feelings conversation, this may not be received as intended. Instead of feeling hurt, or unheard, you could also understand that in order to be “heard” by your partner right now, you have to speak to them from their context (masculine energy) before moving into a different space. This is the first step in having effective communication and the flexibility to hold space for where your partner is communicating from in order to have success in the interaction.

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